Another adoption has turned our world upside down, and changed the plans that we thought were certain. We were in the process of finishing up our homestudy, dossier, and other paperwork to adopt a toddler boy from Ethiopia to complete our family.
About a week ago we got a weekly update on all the waiting children who need homes. We thought look at all these children, and in an instance what we thought we knew changed. There were at least two children in between Yordie and Estifanos’s age that were waiting. We are now seriously considering and talked to our agency about taking an older child about 4. This does run into difficulties with birth order, but Yordie is our baby and to keep that role in the family would be great for her. That would put the two boys in the middle, which Estifanos would most likely enjoy more in the long run.
We are now scurrying to finish paperwork, get CIS approval, and talk to our agency about our options. It was funny because the other day one of our adoption workers asked about how something made us feel. I thought in the last 3 years I have had an adoption fall through, changed countries, adopted two older siblings, dealt with grief issues with a five year old who didn’t speak English, dealt with a heart condition with a three year old, found out about another sibling, adopted her, traveled twice to Ethiopia, and raised three amazing kids. So now we are flexible and ready for another adoption adventure.
June 28, 2008 at 5:16 pm
I’m so excited for you!!!!!
Mary
June 29, 2008 at 6:24 pm
Very exciting! I can’t wait to follow your path with you and see where it leads!!!
June 29, 2008 at 8:15 pm
So interesting reading what you had to say. We just did the same thing. We have two biological children, adopted a 5 month old girl from Ethiopia 2 1/2 years ago and are leaving in two days to adopt a 5 year old boy. Funny part is that we were on the wait list to adopt a toddler boy for about 9 months and then, like you, decided to go with an older child when we saw all of the beautiful children on the “waiting child list.” We had to also go through all the new approvals for out of birth order, older child, homestudy updates, etc. We got it all done, though and here we are, packed up and ready to go. We’re so excited to get back to Ethiopia and meet our new little guy. Best of luck to you!!
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